Consider this: Once you say something, you cannot take back what you’ve said. Many a marriage and a relationship have been destroyed by words spoken in anger. How about you? Do you choose your words carefully? Do you talk too much and listen too little? Our words are potentially combustible, and sometimes we set a “fire” with our speech. Before we know it, the fire is a wild fire—out of control. Married couples often experience the damage caused by sparks from an untamed tongue. Confession and repentance are necessary to clear away dry brush that ignites easily. Negative feelings, clashing opinions, and bad attitudes that smolder will adversely affect a relationship. It is unwise to presume that unresolved issues have gone away because they haven’t resurfaced.

It’s good to remember that our words can either wound or heal. The next time you converse with your spouse, keep track of how much time you talk and how much time you listen. Make an effort to speak words of kindness when it’s your turn to speak. Let your soft answer turn away that smoldering wrath, and extinguish it for good!

Discuss: What specific words or attitudes sometimes hinder good communication between you and your spouse? How can you implement some positive changes?

A sharp tongue is the only edge tool
that grows keener with constant use.
WASHINGTON IRVING (1783–1859)

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